There’s a lot of variety when it comes to sex positions. But if missionary and doggy just aren’t doing it for you anymore, allow me to put you on to the lotus sex position.
Known as one of the more romantic sex positions out there, the lotus sex position is all about connection. Though some other sex positions might focus on the intensity of your orgasm, the lotus sex position brings a slower, more intimate pace to the bedroom.
In this position, it’s less about the performance and more about deepening the bond with your partner . . . literally and figuratively. If you want to prioritize more passion in your relationship, the lotus sex position is the way to do it.
Below, sexologist Suzannah Weiss shares more tips on the lotus sex position and why it may be the greatest sex position of all time.
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Suzannah Weiss is a dating coach and resident sexologist for Biird, a female-led pleasure brand. She is also the author of “Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject.”
What Is the Lotus Sex Position?
Also known as the yab-yum yoga pose, the lotus sex position is basically an X-rated bear hug. To get into the position, the person on the bottom sits with their legs crossed (criss-cross applesauce style) while the other partner on top straddles them. Now face to face, the person on top then wraps their arms and legs around their partner in a tight embrace. The person on the bottom can then place their hands on their partner’s butt, on their partner’s hips, or wherever is comfortable.
“This is an empowering position because the person on top gets to set the pace, rhythm, and motion,” Weiss says. And since the position allows for a lot of grinding back and forth, Weiss also adds that it’s great for G-spot stimulation and can even lead to squirting in some cases.
The Best Lotus Sex Position Tips
In order to get the most out of the lotus sex position, know that this position is best with a partner you share a deep connection with. After all, there’s a lot of eye contact involved. It’s also probably best to try out the lotus sex position when you have the time to explore each other. Quickies are great, but the lotus sex position shouldn’t feel rushed.
To enhance the sex position, Weiss recommends increasing the intimacy in whatever way feels good to you. “You can look into your partner’s eyes, moan into their ear, tell them how good it is feeling, or give instructions like ‘grab my ass’ or ‘kiss me,’ she says. Feel free to explore every erogenous zone too.
If you want a variation of the lotus, the person on top can also turn around to experience a different sort of sensation. “This can feel even more intimate as they are holding you, and you can lean back to kiss them,” Weiss says.
Most importantly in this position, lean into the passion. “This position offers a balance of exerting and surrendering control for both partners,” Weiss says. Allow yourself to find a rhythm and pace with your partner that syncs with your breathing. Once you do, you’ll understand why the lotus sex position isn’t great for quickies – you won’t ever want to stop.
Taylor Andrews is a balance editor at PS who specializes in topics relating to sex, relationships, dating, sexual health, mental health, and more.
