Truth or dare may be something you played with friends back in the day, but allow me to put you on to why it may be the best sex game for your adult life, too. Not to be confused with regular truth or dare, dirty truth or dare mixes elements of vulnerability, excitement, and novelty, all while helping couples explore their kinks and fantasies together.
“Dirty truth or dare can be an exhilarating game to play with someone you’re interested in because it creates an atmosphere of playful intimacy and vulnerability,” sex therapist Aliyah Moore, PhD, says.
The best part: dirty truth or dare isn’t a game exclusive to two people in a relationship. This sex game can be played between horny long-distance lovers, situationships, fuck buddies, and one-night stands, too.
If you’re looking for what Dr. Moore considers to be an “enthralling adventure of sensual exploration, nurturing closeness, and sparking desire between you and your partner,” the best dirty truth or dare questions are right this way.
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Aliyah Moore, PhD, is a certified sex therapist with a doctorate in gender and sexuality studies. She is also the resident sex expert at SexualAlpha, a website dedicated to helping people explore their bodies and sexual wellness products.
What Is Dirty Truth or Dare?
Dirty truth or dare is the X-rated version of regular truth or dare. Although you can play dirty truth or dare however you like, it most often involves some sort of physical act or conversation around sex, kinks, fantasies, and more.
Before engaging in dirty truth or dare, however, it’s important to have a pre-game conversation to discuss hard limits, boundaries, and any safe words you’d like to use. (Safe words can be used to stop play immediately if you ever feel uncomfortable.) If you know you aren’t interested in talking about something or doing any physical act, make sure to voice that with your partner.
Most importantly, remember that just because your partner “dares” you to do something doesn’t mean you have to do it, and just because your partner asks you for a “truth” doesn’t mean you have to tell them. Truth or dare should always be rooted in consent.
Dirty Truth or Dare Questions
Before you dive straight into asking dirty truth or dares, Dr. Moore suggests setting the mood. “Consider incorporating sensory elements that heighten anticipation and arousal,” she adds. You can dim the lights, light some candles, and turn on a sex playlist that makes you feel some type of way to truly get into the mood. Then, you can start your X-rated game night.
When coming up with dirty truths to ask, Dr. Moore suggests asking about hidden turn-ons, favorite intimate moments, and memorable encounters. “Delve into tantalizing inquiries that explore desires, fantasies, and secret passions,” she suggests.
Here are some of the best dirty truths:
- What’s the wildest thing you’ve done in the bedroom that you’ve never told anyone about?
- What’s the most adventurous place you’ve ever had sex?
- What’s the most adventurous place you’d like to have sex?
- Have you ever been caught having sex? If so, what happened?
- What’s the kinkiest or most taboo thing you’ve ever tried?
- What’s the kinkiest thing you want to try in bed?
- How do you feel about threesomes?
- What part of my body do you find the most attractive?
- Have you ever had a sex dream?
- How can I turn you on without physically touching you?
Dirty dares are a bit different. Once you and your partner have discussed boundaries and hard limits, think of physical actions you would want your partner to do to you or to themselves. “Introduce playful challenges that involve touch, taste, and sight,” Dr. Moore says. You can experiment with blindfolds, different erogenous zones, massages, and anything else that may stimulate arousal.
Here are some of the best dirty dares:
- I dare you to give me a sensual massage for five minutes.
- I dare you to feed me a strawberry using only your mouth.
- I dare you to whisper your deepest sexual fantasy in my ear.
- I dare you to give me your best strip tease.
- I dare you to turn on the song you want to have sex with me to.
- I dare you to kiss me wherever you want.
- I dare you to take off your underwear for the rest of the day.
- I dare you to act out a sex position you want to try with me.
- I dare you to run an ice cube over my body.
- I dare you to read an erotic story out loud to me.
If none of these dirty truth or dares are speaking to you, feel free to use them as inspiration to come up with some for yourself. Just know that once you get started playing dirty truth or dare, it’s possible you won’t want to stop.
Taylor Andrews is a Balance editor at PS who specializes in topics relating to sex, relationships, dating, sexual health, mental health, and more. In her six years working in editorial, she’s written about how semen is digested, why sex aftercare is the move, and how the overturn of Roe killed situationships.
